Today at work, I had a hard meeting. While the objective of the meeting was good, and while the person I was meeting with is one of the nicest people that I know and very well intentioned, it was one of the harder encounters that I have had in a long time. This evening, after I got my kids to bed and I am here alone watching stupid television shows on my iPad while typing this blog post….I have been spending some time digesting why I felt like I did.
I think it comes down to one primary thing. The person I met with didn’t ask questions. He led the meeting with an agenda of things to communicate to me based on the perceptions and thoughts that he had about the effectiveness of my team. While helpful in the long run, because he has a lot of great ideas and advice, it made me feel a lot like my opinion didn’t matter. There was a rare moment in what was a long conversation where he asked me what I thought, how I was feeling and what I think we should do, or any question for that matter. It was primarily a one-way conversation.
As I think of how I want to be both as a marketing leader and as a mom, wife, friend, person, this stands out to me as a great learning experience. I want to know how my team, how my kids are thinking about things so that they can share their perspective – and not just broadcast things and communicate things one direction. Easier said than done, but I am hoping that living through today helps me commit to that in my life no matter what the setting.