Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there. I hope that this day finds you relaxing and taking a few moments for yourself. My morning has started out wonderfully – sleeping in as much as possible (almost made 8am!), coffee in bed, time to write and my cute littles helping Jon with breakfast.
I became a mom in 2009 when Katharine came into this world. It seemed like a long time coming with a miscarriage along the way. My mind was blown away by this little package of joy (and tears) that we had created. Jon and I lived in Phoenix and brought this little bundle home to our small apartment, not knowing what we had gotten into.
Today, we are blessed with a caring, intelligent, strong, opinioned little 7 1/2 year old who is out to take on the world. She makes me smile every day. Posed below helping with Mother’s Day brunch preparation.
Two years and 4 months later, our family became complete when Matthew was born. By this time, we had settled back into Park City and I thought I had this mom thing down. 1 + 1 definitely equaled way more than 2. Matthew was a calm little one, just rolling with it when his two year old sister gave him aggressive hugs and tried to “help.”
Matthew just turned five years old, and has fully lived up to his nickname (#shifty), so pictures of him not moving are hard to find. He is one of the most kind, earnest kids I have ever met. He loves life and makes us laugh daily. I have never met a five year old who builds Legos like he can, and he still snuggles me every morning. Posed below at his first ever t-ball game.
Being a mother is more than I ever imagined. It has challenged me to slow down and take it in, with the knowledge that these days won’t last forever. Here are a few things that I have learned in the last seven years that in reflection have helped me to become a better person.
- Being a mom means being comfortable with constant change. Early in Katharine’s life I remember thinking, I have finally figured this thing out (happened to be relative to her sleeping). The next day maybe even the next hour, things changed. Before kids, I thought I had life figured out. I had a plan, and overall things seemed to go according to the plan. Now, that just doesn’t work (it probably wasn’t working before either). Having kids makes it incredibly obvious that you have to be flexible.
- Being a mom has helped me enjoy the journey so much more. Often times before kids, I would set a goal and celebrate when I reached it. Not a bad thing, but what I missed in that process was enjoying the actual journey. With my kids, the journey is the fun. Matthew is learning t-ball right now, and last week I went to his game and just giggled the whole time as they ran all over the field doing about everything but playing t-ball.
- Being a mom means you have to understand your values. The clearer that I have been on what matters to me, what I value, the better I am for my kids. One of the strongest examples of this for me has been with working out. I have had an on and off love affair with fitness my entire life. The last four years I have refocused myself on being strong and fit in order to live the healthiest life I can. I value this and now so do my kids.
- Being a mom means little eyes are always watching. I want to role model for Katharine and Matthew that you can be a confident, smart, caring mom and worker at the same time. I hope that this helps them to know that anything is possible.
- Being a mom is about helping my kids make their own dreams come true. We talk about this a lot with together. We can’t do it for them, it is about them identifying what their dreams are, working hard to make them happen and enjoying their own journey.
I am humbled by how lucky I feel on this Mother’s Day. Being a mom is the best.